Friday, 26 August 2016

JOURNEY OF AN AUTUMN LEAF

Scorching is the sun
And dry is the win’
I am left the last one
Of my kith and kin.

I’m born a green speck
On my mother bough
I am not to bedeck
Like sister flowers I love.

Though born before
Sister flower is the one
Endowed from times yore
With all hues under sun.

Always provided food
To my entire family
Scorched by sun I stood
But I served affably.

None granted a favour
Nor did I ask for any
Dignity, I saw in labour
Comfort? I care tuppenny.

Scorching sun takes toll
Dries up my abode
Hanging by thread of soul
Watching spirits erode.

Parched and dry is my skin
Crackling is my voice
Nary a brother nor a kin
To prance, sing, and rejoice.

Not much time left for me
To give up and let go
Sibs on branch, I don’t see
Withered they have, Lo!

Gust of wind begins to blow
Severing my ties with nest
Plummet I to ground below
My last journey on the planet.

Monday, 15 August 2016

BLAST FROM THE PAST - 2

Yet another rage from the 70's. Go on, have a blast.

Hey, guys, I don't find the brown girl. Have you seen her?


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Boney M. – Brown Girl In The Ring Lyrics

Brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la
There's a brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la la
Brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la
She looks like a sugar in a plum
Plum plum

Show me your motion
Tra la la la la
Come on show me your motion
Tra la la la la la
Show me your motion
Tra la la la la
She looks like a sugar in a plum
Plum plum

Old headwater run dry
Got nowhere to wash my clothes
Old headwater run dry
Got nowhere to wash my clothes

I remember one Saturday night
We had fried fish and Johnny-cakes
I remember one Saturday night
We had fried fish and Johnny-cakes

Beng-a-deng
Beng-a-deng

Brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la
There's a brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la la
Brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la
She looks like a sugar in a plum
Plum plum

Show me your motion
Tra la la la la
Come on show me your motion
Tra la la la la la
Show me your motion
Tra la la la la
She looks like a sugar in a plum
Plum plum

Old headwater run dry
Got nowhere to wash my clothes
Old headwater run dry
Got nowhere to wash my clothes

I remember one Saturday night
We had fried fish and Johnny-cakes
I remember one Saturday night
We had fried fish and Johnny-cakes

Beng-a-deng
Beng-a-deng

Brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la
See, brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la la
Brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la
She looks like a sugar in a plum
Plum plum

Old headwater run dry
Got nowhere to wash my clothes
Old headwater run dry
Got nowhere to wash my clothes

Brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la
Look that brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la la
Brown girl in the ring
Tra la la la la
She looks like a sugar in a plum
Plum plum

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Songwriters: REUTHER, FRANZ / DP,

Brown Girl In The Ring lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

BLAST FROM THE PAST-1

Friends,

I am sharing with you all something thqat was a rage during our youth (Oh my God, that was soooo looong ago!) Hope you will enjoy it too. 

Keep cool, daddy!

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Boney M. – Daddy Cool Lyrics

She is crazy like a fool
What about it Daddy cool

She is crazy like a fool. What about it Daddy cool?
I'm crazy like a fool. What about it Daddy Cool?
Daddy Daddy Cool (yeh)
Daddy Daddy Cool

Daddy Daddy Cool
Daddy Daddy Cool.
She is crazy like a fool. What about it Daddy cool?
Daddy Daddy Cool (yeh)
Daddy Daddy Cool

She is crazy about her Daddy
Oh
She believes in him
She loves her Daddy

She is crazy like a fool. What about it Daddy cool?
Daddy Daddy Cool
Daddy Daddy Cool

Songwriters: FARIAN, FRANK / REYAM, GEORGE

Daddy Cool lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

Monday, 18 July 2016

RANDOM REFLECTIONS (excerpts #2)

HALLUCINATIONS or WHAT?


hallucination  (n.) :- Perception of visual, auditory, tactile, olfactory, or gustatory experiences without an external stimulus and with a compelling sense of their reality, usually resulting from a mental disorder or as a response to a drug.


I am not a dreamer. I am not a daydreamer. I do not hallucinate. I do not do drugs. I am not an alcoholic.

If anything, I am a person who lives by his head and not by his heart. Simply put, I am not a romantic. My wife was an out-and-out romantic, not that she was not a realist, not that she did not abide by the worldly restrictions, but that she was a romantic at heart; she always saw life in all its splendorous colours. I lived, am living, and will live by the head, always assessing the risk, the odds before leaping into action. Well, that might have scraped away some colour off my life but my adventurous wife amply compensated for that aspect.

Why am I talking about myself?

There is a reason.

The surgeries, the aftermath, and the ultimate demise of my wife are devastation for my family and me. Trying to understand and cope with the calamity, we realised that several inexplicable events and coincidences occurred over the fateful period…

…and one event occurred personally to my deceased wife and me much earlier, without our realising its significance.

I shall come to that later.

***

Swarna, my wife, was very fond of devotional songs, especially those rendered by the unique (Late) M. S. Subbulakshmi (MS). I downloaded links to some of them – Shri Venkateshwara Suprabhatam, Vishnu Sahasranamam, Bhavayami Raghuramam, et al – on her iPad, gifted by our daughter during the surgery days. I used to play them one-by-one (for God’s sake, reduce the volume, Shyam) and she used to relax in the balcony of our elder daughter’s home or in the hospital bed, both at Hyderabad. Midway through her stay at the hospital for second surgery, the YouTube links stopped functioning, abruptly. I tried innumerable times in innumerable ways to “revitalise” them but to no avail; I even erased and reloaded the links several times. I said sorry to Swarna and things were left hanging there.

Much later, after she was discharged and admitted to hospital for the third time, things worsened and she did not return home alive. On the fifth day after her cremation, I immersed her bones and ashes in a river. That marked the cessation of the physical entity called Rajeswari Swarnalatha on Mother Earth. The next day, I was narrating to my second daughter, who was in an adjacent room, how the links to MS’s devotional songs were non-functional notwithstanding innumerable attempts by me. She was responding, ‘hmmm…hmmm…’ While I was talking to her, I tried once again to play one of the links, Shri Venkateshwara Suprabhatam. Lo and behold!

“Kausalya supraja rama purva sandhya pravartate.”
“कौसल्या सुप्रजा रामा पुरवा संध्या प्रवर्तते”

The rich voice of MS floated around the room as if it never fell silent! My second daughter came running out of her room exclaiming, “Oh my God...Oh my God!”

Was the silence an indication that my wife’s time was up? Was the resurrection, only and just after the immersion of her last remains in the river, an indication that the life of the physical entity called Rajeswari Swarnalatha ended? Why did those links conk and how did they start functioning again?

What?

***

Another one…

To say that my health took a beating during those four months of Swarna’s hospitalisation would be an understatement but it was, is, and will always be immaterial, given the priorities of the crtical circumstances. I was not getting more than two or three hours’ sleep and my food intake more than halved. My chronic problems of MVP (mitral valve prolapse), spondylitis (both cervical and lumbar), and arthritic pain in the wrists and knees started playing up seriously. I used to catnap for a couple of hours (kind of sit-sleep) in the lone sofa provided in the room.

Swara had been in the ICU for the previous fortnight and the chance of her coming out alive were become slimmer day by day.

It was just after 04.00 A.M. two nights before the disaster.

Our two daughters somehow adjusted on the lone, narrow guest cot and were having fitful sleep. As usual, I was trying to sit-sleep stretched out on the sofa. I could not sleep a wink the whole night. I was watching some English movie on the TV. Did I doze away for a few seconds? I will never know.

Then it happened.

Swarna slowly walked into the room swinging her hands in her typical style. She was in her hospital greys. She halted and stood beside her hospital bed, turned her neck, and looked around the room. She looked completely normal. Missing were the central line and the stomach discharge collection bags!

I screamed.

My daughters were jolted out of their slumber by my scream and they inquired what happened. Between hiccups and gulps of water offered by my daughters, I described the scene to them. They were stunned, too. I asked them what the scene meant.

Then we started guessing and interpreting the scene.

The first question that arose was whether it was a dream. I am, till date, not convinced that it was a dream. Agreed, I could have dozed away but just for a few moments, literally, a few seconds at best. I concluded thus due to the continuity of the TV movie.

Then, the sixty-four thousand dollar question. What did it mean? Call it wishful thinking, unrealistic optimism, whatever you will, the absence of all the tubing and the near-normal appearance of my wife meant that she would come out of the ICU completely cured!

Early on the second morning after that, my wife breathed her last in the ICU.

In the aftermath, we tried to dissect that scene (A dream or hallucination? I am still not convinced). We thought it to be a visitation of my wife’s spirit but not a dream and she was trying to tell us that everything would be all right. It turned out to be entirely wrong.

On further catechism, I remembered that in that scene I did not find my daughters or me anywhere in the room, only my wife in an empty room.

Why so? 

Another interpretation floated around that her astral body visited to take stock whether she had left anything not fulfilled before departing from this world. That was the reason why the room was empty! This explanation seemed to fit well.

Whatever the interpretation was, I am, we all are, sure that it was not my dream or hallucination but a visitation by my wife’s spirit to convey the message, which we, mere mortals, could not comprehend.

***

Ever since my wife passed away I am in a mental turmoil, unable to assimilate fully the fact of her demise, unable to adjust to her absence beside me (physically as well as figuratively), unable to garner even an iota of strength (physical and mental) to live, to look forward; there is no tomorrow for me. I pray to God to take me away. I pray to Swarna for another visitation, another indication that she may be around me; to place her palm on my chest once more so that my palpitations would abate; to caress my thinning silver hair once more so that the agony of my chaotic mind would vanish. It did not happen…

…for over eight months.

…but recently, one night…

Presently, I am staying with my second daughter and family at Sterling in Virginia, USA. My first daughter and family have moved from Hyderabad to Ohio state recently.

My restlessness, sleeplessness, and lack of hunger continue to plague me. So do my prayers.

Last week, as usual I woke up in the wee hours, 04:00 A.M. to be precise. I used the washroom and resumed - tried to anyway - my broken sleep. Within a few minutes of my lying down, I felt a cold, gentle touch on the fleshy part of my left elbow! (Let me remind you that I was fully awake.) I sat up with a jolt. There was no one else in the room! I was not afraid, for I knew who and what it was.

The time was 04:10 A.M. just like the time of visitation by my wife months earlier.

Later, I narrated the incident to my daughters. They were not surprised, for they feel the presence of their mother’s spirit around them, too.

***

…and one event occurred personally to my deceased wife and me much earlier than … she … you know …

I shall come to that now.

It is probably the most significant one…

It is perhaps the most controversial one…

It is perchance the least understood one…

It was three to six months prior to my wife’s surgery. Whereas the treatment had been underway for a long time, surgery was not discussed or decided upon.

It was around 06:30 P.M. Swarna was in our small kitchen preparing dinner. I stood in the doorway discussing something mundane (I do not remember what it was) with her.

Suddenly, in my peripheral vision, I saw something that startled me and made me scream. The figure of a young girl floated through the kitchen, beside me and disappeared. It was finished in all but five seconds. My scream, in turn, startled my wife into a frightened scream (she was mortally afraid of cockroaches).

I narrated what I saw.

She was a young girl of fair complexion, with long black tresses let down to surround her face like dark clouds surrounding a bright moon. She was clad in light sky-blue lehanga and choli that Indian girls, who have not attained puberty, usually wear. The choli sleeves dropped down to below the elbows and waist o the hips. The lehanga and choli had borders of silver zari. I could not see any facial features, though. This was what it looked like.

My wife chided me and said that she had screamed thinking it was a cockroach. I regained a semblance of calm and composure, and implored her to explain to me what it was that I had just seen. She brushed aside the entire episode as a figment of fertile imagination of the writer in me. That is that. We forgot about the episode completely…until after the calamity of my wife’s demise struck us. I narrated the entire incident to my daughters, sons-in-law, and a couple of close relations.

Many theories and interpretations were bandied. A couple of them:

One theory goes like this. Her whole life, my wife was a devout devotee of Maa Durga and her younger incarnation, Bala Tripura Sundari, among other deities. This being the case, some said, it could not have been anyone other than Bala Tripura Sundari.

According to another theory, we all carry two angels on our shoulders. The girl was one of them.

That evening I was fully awake and conscious. That evening I was not hallucinating. That evening I was not dreaming.

I am still not convinced by any of the theories bandied. I am still not convinced what I actually saw. I am still not convinced. I cannot even offer a plausible explanation to what I saw.

***

These were but three of the inexplicable incidents that occurred in the recent past or the immediate aftermath of my wife’s demise. There is one long series of coincidences starting from my father’s demise some sixty years ago, but that is topic for another time, another thought sharing, and another blog.

One question stares in my face. “What is the purpose, divine or mundane, of it all?”

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Sunday, 10 July 2016

RANDOM REFLECTIONS (excerpts #1)

PROLOGUE

“Move,” the guard shoves me towards my prison cell by the butt of his rifle.

I stumble, steady myself, and look at him piteously, knowing well that no pity or sympathy will be forthcoming from the rock-hard heart and implacably remorseless eyes.

I narrow my eyes and look at my destination, nay destiny. Its dark, dingy, desolate disposition depresses me instantly. I can do nothing about it. That will be my home for the rest of my life - me, a life-convict - not that I committed a crime, but that I loved someone wholeheartedly. That someone has been cruelly snatched away from me. That someone is my wife, my soul mate, my alter ego. I have been condemned to live a life without her.

The clamorous clanging of the cell gate jolts me back into the pitiless present. The heavy bolt is drawn, I am pushed into the cell, and the cell gate is bolted and locked.

My life sentence has just begun.

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GONE MATE GONE

I still cannot believe that she is gone. It all feels like a dream. Do I mean “a nightmare”? A moment ago, she was alive although in the ICU, struggling for breath, struggling for life. A moment later, she is dead. It is indeed a very thin, in fact invisible, line separating the states of being alive and of being dead.

Months after that devastating event, I feel that she still is here, hiding somewhere to make a grand entry saying, ‘Darling, I am back.’ However, that is in the realm of a dream. The undeniable fact is she is gone. I know it. It is up to me to accept it and move on with my life, whatever is left of it.

Sitting in my favourite reclining chair with a tankard of chilled beer in hand, I slide back in time.

***

THE HEALING HAND

I am just staring at the blank LED TV screen. I have nothing to do but just go to bed. I know sleep will elude me. Just as it had been for the last four months, but there is a difference. Earlier, it would not as much as wink at my bleary, tired eyes the whole night. Now, it will elude me until after midnight and then I will sleep for four to five hours, comfortably, no nightmares, no dreams, and no screams, which were so typical of me. Strange as it may sound, it is true. I sleep more peacefully now, after she is gone. It is as though she sings a silent lullaby for me, caresses my hair so that the tension abates, and gently rubs my chest so that the MVP-induced palpitations abate. Is it because she is gone and I no longer have to worry about her? True, I need not worry about her health anymore. However, worrying about her eternal physical absence, watching over her legacies – our two daughters, sons-in-law, three grandchildren, and taking care of the education of our foster granddaughter are entirely different matters; they do worry me.  I have to carry on with discharging the responsibilities without her being present beside me; quite daunting tasks, but carry them out fully, I definitely will. She had that kind of confidence in me, and I have that kind of confidence in her confidence.

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LIFE AND DEATH

How can a person just vanish from the face of this earth, as if the person had never existed?

What is life? What is death?

These questions have always perturbed me. One second a person is alive, all the senses functioning fully. The next second the same person is dead, all senses ceasing to function! Is a human the senses or the soul? If soul is the permanent entity, which dons another body after relinquishing the previous old body after its ‘death’, how can be a person pronounced dead. A confusing line of thought, is it not? Or, is it a confused line of thought?

The thought of what after has always unnerved me. From birth, we grow up with thoughts, feelings, emotions, and a myriad other sensations. We do not question the how’s and why’s; we take them for granted. They are just there. However, death is an entirely different kettle of fish. Once a person ceases to exist what happens to the thoughts, feelings, and emotions of that person? Where would they go? Do they just disappear? It is scientifically proven that energy can neither be created nor destroyed.  Are these sensations not some form of energy? It is said even the sounds made by people remain in the atmosphere long after they cease to live, since sound is energy. Is there an “atma”, a soul? What is it in real terms, not abstract expressions like “consciousness”, etc.?

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PROPHETIC WORDS?

Can words – spoken or written – be prophetic?

To my utter consternation, I realised that they can, as events unfolded themselves during the recent cataclysmic past.

So far, I wrote six novels, forty-odd short stories, about a dozen poems and five episodes of a children’s fantasy adventure series. Each of these is of different genre. Given my fatal attraction to death, is it any wonder that many of my writings dabble in that aspect of life?

The very first paragraph I wrote, as I took the first small step in my journey into the world of writing, was about the death of the protagonist of the story! What an ominous beginning! The story of another novel revolves around how a man brings up his eight-year-old daughter, after the death of his wife.

Then there is a poem where I described the agony of a person whose spouse had died. In another, I wrote vividly how one, separated from one’s beloved, is finding it difficult to continue living. In yet another, the soul of a person, whose body lay on the funeral pyre waiting to be lit, cries ‘I love you’ for his beloved!

Recently, my wife passed away after suffering for an agonising period of four months. In the aftermath of that calamitous, life-shattering, life-altering event, my children and I realised how prophetic some of my spoken words turned out to be! My wife was not taking sufficient essential nutrition, post-surgery. All near and dear literally begged her to eat well. At one stage, I even warned her that she would be taken into the ICU should any complication arise, thinking that the warning would goad her to eating well. A day or two later it really happened; she was taken into the ICU. She did not return alive.

Were my words well-meaning warnings or were they forced through my pen and tongue by God Almighty as prophecies? I shall never know.

Our elders keep telling us not to utter any harsh words for anyone lest the words should turn prophetic and become “curses”. Do words really have such effect, such power?

In this context, I recollect a very deeply philosophical quotation:

Watch your words, they become actions;
Watch your actions, they become habits;
Watch your habits, they become character;
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

That is how powerful, words are. There must be a “sifting mechanism” between our thoughts and our spoken words. Simply put, it means that we must not say everything that comes to our mind. That raises the all-important question, ‘was it wrong of me to have used strong words, however much critical the situation was?’ I leave it to your judgement, while desperately fighting the debilitating feeling that, somehow, my writings are boomeranging on me.

I have an example highlighting the exact opposite.

Panicking at the prospect of losing my soul mate of forty years, I hurriedly wrote a long paragraph, purportedly of a future story of mine, wherein I sanguinely described the wheeling of my wife into the ward after a successful surgery, while she announces, “Shyam, I am back...”

She did not come back.

This argument is further bolstered by an anecdote from a novel by the famous Somerset Maugham. His invalid hero, who walks with the help of a walking stick, tries his hand at positive thinking. One night, he goes to sleep trying to think himself into becoming a normal person. In the morning, he finds the world beautiful…and walks out of his home with the help of his walking stick!

So much for prophetic words.

***

THE SUMANGALI SYNDROME

“Sir, I want one sari used by the late madam.” That is the request from our washerwoman.

Traditional Indian women are fixated on passing away as sumangali, which means predeceasing their husbands, however propitious their own careers are. Hence, a personal thing, like a sari, used by a woman, who passes away as sumangali, is considered a sacred talisman, which helps them to attain the stage of passing away as sumangali.

This might have its genesis in the societal conditions of yore when a woman had no role except as the wife of a man. She had no right to education or property. She had no career except as a wife. What happens to such a woman if her husband predeceases her? One, only alternative to living a life of hell as a widow, was to commit sati, a heinous social practice, which Raja Ram Mohan Roy fought against.

My elder daughter has been telling me about this sumangali obsession. Perhaps it is difficult for a man to understand it. Although I have seen a fair share of the traumatic lives led by my mother, sisters, mother-in-law, sisters-in-law, and a few other relatives, surprisingly it was only after the passing away of my wife as a sumangali that I realise the significance.

Ever since her childhood, she seems to have been obsessed with the idea of departing from this world as a sumangali, more so after our marriage, although she never expressed it aloud. All her religious activities and rituals unequivocally and unwaveringly pointed to the fixation. Not that she refused to lead a normal life, quite the contrary; she enjoyed life to the hilt. She experienced the good, the bad, and the ugly sides of life. She never complained but just accepted whatever fate threw her way.

I AM ALONE

***

“Am I an arrogant and difficult person to live with?” I ask my wife.

Looking amusedly from her hospital bed – she is convalescing from a major surgery – she counters, “Why do you feel so?”

“Take the present scenario; you have undergone a major surgery. I would expect to be flooded with phone calls, SMSs, e-mails, whatnot? It isn’t happening. Barring a couple of relatives, no one even bothered to SMS me. I …”

She interrupted me, with a smile, of course.

“This is the problem with you; you take every small thing to heart. I have been married to you for what, forty years now?”

“Thirty-nine; Fortieth anniversary falls next month. I have plans…”

“Okay, okay. Listen. You are anything but arrogant. In fact, you are polite to a fault.”

“But…”

“You are a self-made person and brook no nonsense, be it official life or personal life. Initially, I had some problem adjusting to you but when I understood you for what you are, I had the smoothest of sailings.”

“Why do people feel I’m arrogant and difficult to live with? I am all alone in this world.”

“Firstly, you are not alone; our daughters and their families are there, and I am with you. What others feel about you is their perception and they do not live with you, I do. They find it difficult to adjust to someone like you, who is down-to-earth simple, whose needs are simple, whose wants are few and far between, and who speaks his mind. You are a complete family man, devoted to family and children…”

It was my turn to interrupt.

“And you…”

She blushed. “You pampered me like even my dad didn’t.”

“Still…”

“As long as I am with you, you are never alone.”

Now, she is not with me.

What about me? Am I alone?

I am utterly despondent, and directionless. Above all, I am hopelessly alone. That is the effect of my forty years’ life with her. I cannot speak for them but I understand the void the innumerable widows and widowers must be feeling after losing their spouses. I salute their courage, and resilience. I wish I could borrow some of the qualities from them, so that I can live on until my time comes.

***

INSECURITY ad infinitum

A sixty-six-year-old man feels insecure!

Why?

He must have just retired.

Nothing new, he retired six years ago; still feels insecure.

He must be having some health problems.

He has long-standing Mitral Valve Prolapse (MVP); he is used to it now.

His finances are low or investments have taken a hit during the recent recession.

He has no bank balance worth mentioning; his pension disappears mid-month. Investments? You must be joking!

Then, what? His wife must be seriously ill.

(Pause) You are getting close.

Some incurable disease?

Closer.

His wife died.

(Silence)

###

What do you say about a fifty-seven-year-old woman who dies after she undergoes a life-saving surgery for a life-threatening ailment with the fond hope of getting better, eating better, living better?

Fate? Destiny? Karma? Cosmic writ?

A cruel joke perpetrated on an unsuspecting family. Nothing less.

Was the decision wrong? No, there was no other option.

Were the surgeons at fault? No, nothing was left untried.

Then?

I do not know; you tell me.

###

Did she stop living?

No.

Did she brood over her ill health?

No.

Did she stop loving life?

Absolutely not.

Then?

She was the epitome of courage, resilience, and ebullience.

Then, why should the old man feel insecure?

The old man, her husband, feels insecure because she was the epitome of courage, resilience, and ebullience.

I don’t understand.

You nincompoop, she was his strength. Over the forty years of their married life, he came to depend on her for these very qualities.

So?

Moron, she has passed away.

Oh!

Yeah, oh! Where from will he draw the courage, the resilience, and the ebullience to carry on with the rest of his life?

You are right.

Of course I am.

No wonder he feels insecure.

Absolutely.

No wonder he feels vulnerable.

Absolutely.

What next?

Where, in his life or in our discussion?

Hmmm…

His wife, his soul mate of forty years passed away. There is no next, as I see it.

Hmmm…

***